Such a juicy question I get to answer this week. I am spilling my guts about my personal views on Men & Porn.
Not only am I divulging all my dirty little secrets about my views on Men & Porn, but I am giving you a great strategy for dealing with this in your life. (After you watch the video look for the chart below) I am also revealing one of the most important components of inspiring men to adore you.
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Jenn
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I can’t watch the video right now, but my view on porn is this: you can’t fight mother nature. If a man would PREFER porn to me, well, then we have a problem. But because men are so visual, they love it and it can be incorporated into a relationship. My only PROBLEM with it is this: men love the fantasy. but those girls are professionals. The reality is that we’re not bleached and shaved and porned up, so when they see you naked, they might think you should look like a porn star (to which I would reply, well, then, so should you. The end.).
Love that you are talking about this issue, Jenn! Love your video presence and your chart, thank you for those! I absolutely embrace a much larger sexual realm than most. I go with everything in the chart. Agree with, play with, have fun. Yet this is the one challenge that still hovers for me….
its impact on women. Bottom line, the women in porn magazines are like the women in other magazines… gorgeous perfect bodies boobs the whole gamut. Most of us do NOT look anything like them. And so women take that in. Here is my guy, or guys, looking at these perfect babes whacking off and lusting after them… and the thought either goes… I am ugly. Not like that. Thus less desireable. Or… let me starve beat and shape myself into those images. Thus it hits the social stigma that so many women are wrestling with and many are now up in arms about.
If the women in porn were every shape and size, that would be one thing. But they are not. So… don’t know if you have any thoughts on that. Otherwise I am alllll about keeping the lush sex life of my man alive. No matter what, those photos don’t ever take the place of the real deal. And there is some turn on about it… if you let your head get there. I think we are wired too!!
love YOUR work, Jenn!! xo
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Ohhh Kathleen, this is the BEST question… and here is my controversial answer.
I know from my studies, my experiences, and my work that men have very eclectic taste in women. I also know that a man ultimately wants the woman who drives him wild mentally and emotionally. Yes he is a very visual creature, but his vision is magically malleable. I am personally about 40lbs overweight and my man can’t keep his hands off me. I look nothing like women in porn. Yes, I do have my insecurities about my body, but the prevailing thought is how fucking boring would this world be if we all looked the same? Which I am sure you resonate with.
With that in mind, I do know there are other types of porn out there that are slowly becoming more mainstream, with different body types and such. I think the process will be sped up more, as we women start to practicing embracing our own bodies, and stop punishing men for our own insecurities. Because I know, that my man, and most men would never take a porn star over that sexy girl next door standing next to him. As for the message porn sends, it is about the receiver. I see porn as one type of beauty. There are thousands more out there. When we women stop seeing porn as competition and understanding what really turns our men on (he wants to know that no other man can make you feel the way he does sexually). No images will EVER take the place of the real deal when you understand that your personal sensuality, value, ability to have fun with him are what truly turns a man on. Also, it is so important to take him on your sensual and sexual pleasure journey. Focusing on just what he likes breeds insecurities. Your body is gorgeous just as it is. and Porn stars are as well. As we own our bodies more and more, I can promise you that main stream porn will have lots of different options.
Thank you for this, Jenn! I really am in alignment with your perspective and feel that way as well. My lover LOVES memybody. Adoration abounds. So I do not feel this insecurity. Yet as I wrote to, I DO know so many women who suffer here.
I am in agreement. I think we are breaking the curse by showing up, having these discussions, loving our own bodies and redefining what beauty is. More and more men are also coming out to claim what they love… all shapes and sizes.
Thank you sooooooooo MUCH for your gorgeous work! I absolutely LOVE it and am so grateful you are out here carrying this message with such heart and wisdom! YAY! xo
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My views in porn? Well, it is normal to men or even women see port pictures or movies. It is a human nature to admire sexy bodies, fantasize and so. But it is only in our minds. The reality is we have our sex life with our loved one. Maybe it would help some to get the excitement from there.
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Ladies, here’s a little secret! He most likely knows that you don’t look like that unless this is a kinky blind date. Guess what? If you don’t care, neither will he. The majority of men are so happy that a women wants to be with them, naked to top it off – they DO NOT CARE. Believe it or not, the majority of men will love you like you are unless you don’t. Ever hear that perception is reality? Do not let porn (in moderation) worry or scare you. In fact, if you are willing to occasionally share this with your man, your goddess factor is going to go through the roof. Trust me, I know this.
what an interesting topic, i enjoyed reading and understanding more about it. men!
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