You know when you are looking for something and you search everywhere and cannot find it. Then one day when you least expected it, you find it in the most unlikely spot. Well that is how my relationship with The Courage Kit started and ended.
Man was I looking, searching, scourging even, to find a man that would adore me, understand me, honour me and at times just a man that would even like me. So I went looking, in bars, clubs, shopping centres, school social events and even joined a dating website. But no matter how much I looked I never ever found what I wanted.
Then one cold rainy Sunday whilst I was searching for a book that could help me I FOUND IT!!, not the man but the solution – and it was The Courage Kit.
You need to know that I was excited by the concept but also so apprehensive at first. I had never been on a date in my 42 years of life and I actually remember stating to Jenn in the initial phone call that “Australian men do not take women out on dates” . Jenn made me realise that this adventure was one that I had to take, I needed to change, I needed direction and I SOOO needed Jenn’s method on how to stop looking for him and how to find myself.
The soul searching discovery tour started over 3 months ago and I can honestly tell you it has changed my life forever. The Courage Kit – so perfectly named, has helped me to develop into a woman that is not only desired by men but I am also desired by many. It has given me the courage to look deep into my soul and tweak it a bit to make it soo much better.
During the journey I have completed the homework with passion, I have joined in the amazing support network of fellow women on the journey and lastly I have had the undeniable support of the amazingly beautiful Jenn Burton.
So if you want to know if the journey was worth it, let me give you some statistics.
Before The Courage Kit I had never been asked out on a date, never been on a date, had only chased men who turned out to be inappropriate for me, never been adored by a man and had never had men buy me drinks. Zero dates with any man.
During The Courage Kit I made men swirve as they were driving past me, I have had men swoon over me whilst fighting to buy me drinks, I have been on over 15 dates in the last few months, I have been adored, I have been romanced and I have swept of f my feet. 15 dates with a variety of lovely men.
After The Courage Kit my life has exploded with joy and happiness as I can honestly say that the man of my dreams has landed right into my heart. He is everything I asked for and more. He writes me poetry, he takes me places I have never been, loves me unconditionally and has swept me off my feet. 1000 dates with the ultimate perfect for me man.
The irony of it is that I found my Mr. Wonderful whilst I wasn’t looking because I was having too much fun playing on adventures connected to The Courage Kit.
Please do not doubt yourself anymore, you deserve this amount of happiness and joy. I dare you, come on take a bet on yourself… take The Courage Kit.
Love you Jenn
Samantha B., Educator, Australia
“Mind-Blowing, Liberating, Super-Fun” I signed up for TCK because I was intrigued when I saw Jenn’s advert. It sounded soooooo – WILD ! How to have the dating/romantic adventure of my dreams ! I had kinda given up on this idea – that I had to just settle for what came along.
For me especially – I really attract the kind of man that ends up IGNORING me on so many levels. Jenn’s tagline – GO FROM IGNORED TO ADORED really got my attention, so I requested a skype call with her.
Immediately, I knew I would love this course. Jenn is warm, lovely, inviting and extremely insightful. She is a fantastic coach. She can be tough and straight-talking – challenging – but also I know she’s got my back and wants the best for me. Her insight into me was fabulous – she knows that inside me is a gorgeous woman who deserves to be adored – and she kept coaxing that side of me out – away from all the low expectations and confusing experiences.
I can honestly say now – I have a handle on it. I am attracting SO MUCH more attention from men, I have kicked my old relationship pattern out the back door, and know the SIGNS AND CLUES of how to really draw a man to me. Really amazing. A mind-blowing experience – one which I will always thank Jenn for – especially as she has shown me how to REVIVE my romantic dreams, not bury them.
Through TCK I finally found the courage to let go of a lover who was treating me really badly – but in a powerful, self-affirming way, without looking back. I am drawing a lot of new men into my life. I can really see the good in men now, see that they want to adore and love me. I see a lot of respect in men’s eyes when they look at me, as well as admiration and attraction! I can see the gift of men, and I know how to shine the gift of who I am too.
I am definitely open to a wider range of experience with men now than ever before. My mind is not closed (as it was before). I have let go off my old defenses and behaviours and have stepped into a new, powerful, exciting phase. I have really evolved in a massive way – past my old outworn behaviours into a new space. I can’t believe I have never properly thought about these things before – Jenn shines the spotlight of consciousness into the dark areas of our female souls – and teases out our answers, setting us free.
Being CONSCIOUS for once about how to treat men, how to speak to them, how to show them how to treat you etc – it’s been like learning a new language – one I wish I’d known years ago! There is a lovely art to being a woman, which is what Jenn teaches – and definitely a special art to being an Adored Woman. Jenn has brought her out being in hiding and has shown me how to allow her to flourish and shine and play in a world of men who want to adore her too.
Jenn’s field research always had me in stitches – I love how this is about putting it INTO ACTION, not just writing notes in a notebook. She is very mischievous but ultimately so knowing. She knows what we need to do, and gets us out there DOING IT.
I was also particularly grateful to Jenn for helping me get past the old lover – she really taught me why/how this was not working – got past my confusion – and opened a new door for me to access new experiences.
I have to say Jenn was my favourite part of the program
Even though this was about dating, it was also about me. I see that I was using men as a way to get validation as I was not properly giving that to myself. Jenn totally encourages us to celebrate and validate ourselves – and in that lies the real power of being an Adored Woman.
I really appreciated that Jenn has taken the time to do her research and look into this topic – her clarity was astounding. I am a smart woman but when it came to men my brains would get scrambled. Jenn has unscrambled me – and given me new eyes to look at the dating landscape.
There is an interplay between men and women that I was not participating in in a proper way – I was giving and getting the wrong signals. Now I know how to speak to a man properly – using my eyes, my voice, my intention, my playfulness, my intelligence – in a much more appealing way…..in a way where he will REALLY notice me and freely give of his love and devotion as a result.
I honestly think every woman should do herself a favour and do this course. Save all that heartache – and just go straight to the Happy Ever After!
Shilpa M., Writer/Broadcaster, U.K.
“Challenging, Provocative, Empowering… and FUN” I’ve always been a “relationship girl” through and through. The problem was, I didn’t know how to let myself be adored. When I signed up for The Courage Kit, I had absolutely no idea that successful dating required very different skills than being in a relationship.
Wow! Did I have a lot to learn. If a man didn’t call right away, I assumed he wasn’t interested and spent hours of my own precious energy crafting my next move. I was working WAY too hard in all the wrong ways.
The Courage Kit has taught me how to stay sane and centered while dealing with the ambiguous world of dating. Rather than feeling on edge all the time, I’ve learned to relax. I now look forward to the times when men reach out, stay upbeat and curious when they disappear, ask for what I want, and let them develop their interest in their own time. It’s way less hard work. I get a lot more attention from men. And when I do, I trust that it’s a genuinely a good thing, rather than fearing it’s just a trick to get me in bed.
Feeling more relaxed about dating has given me lots more energy to pursue the hobbies and work goals that are important to me. Rather than separate the two by necessity, I am learning to weave gracefully back and forth between dating and work commitments.
I also learned a HUGE lesson about girlfriends. I used to leave them in the dust when men would come into my life. TCK taught me the value of staying connected, using the women around me for support, and keeping my commitments to the women in my life as another way of deeply respecting myself.
Jenn’s care for her clients comes through loud and clear. She goes to bat for you in a way I haven’t experienced before in the realm of relationship coaching. She’s not afraid to tell you like it is, whether you need a hug and some serious encouragement, or a reality check about your own counterproductive behavior.
I also love that she draws upon her own experiences to boldly teach a new paradigm that’s hard to accept at first. Put your faith in the tools and you won’t be disappointed. Jenn’s approach can powerfully turn the tables on your stubborn resistance to being loved, adored, and having the kind of relationship you most desire.
Thank you Jenn for your commitment to what you do
LeeAnn Mallorie, MA, CSC,Radical Wellness Lifestyle Coach & Creator of the Guts’n Grace Self-Healing Course for Women
“Life-changing, Powerful and Creative” I signed up for TCK because I wanted to know how to change the pattern that I was forming with men. I had gotten divorced about a year ago and had started dating soon after, but from my ex-husband to the men that were showing up since the divorce, they all seemed romantically lazy, unmotivated, and noncommittal. A direct reflection of me! I was tired and I didn’t even know what I wanted with men and romance.
Since taking TCK, I learned who I am romantically, was able to define what I wanted with men, and obtained the tools to make that happen. It’s only been a short while, but my dating life has fired off in a direction I have never been in and it is the most exciting time of my life, by far. I went from attracting lazy and unmotivated men without real jobs to attracting a successful, fun-loving man who insists on doing wonderful things for me – all the time.
One thing I learned about dating is that it can’t be done gracefully if you’re not having fun in your own life with or without him. A women who knows how to have fun on her own and with her girlfriends is a very attractive thing for a guy. And by golly if I don’t say that my girlfriends think I’m the fun-est person to go out with now. The more I started having fun in my own life and with my girlfriends, the more my own social life improved as well.
My favorite part of the program was defining my romantic archetype and seeing how I had covered up so many wonderful aspects of my personality (and my body!) as a defense mechanism to keep men away. The self-discovery – learning who I was romantically in the past and uncovering the romantic genius within – was the key to changing my old pattern. It’s like my ability to talk with men and create the most thrilling love-life were always in me, I just had to find out where and bring it out.
UPDATE: Lacey is engaged! Congrats!
Lacey H., Licensed Midwife Apprentice and Doula, U.S.
“Love, Effervescence and Chutzpah” I’ve never had a good romantic history. I’ve been the ‘buddy’, the one who is more one of the guys than the beloved. And of the four guys I dated, one was scary (he told me he loved me on our first date), one was deathly boring, one was a mooch, and the one I married was emotionally abusive.
I was told that there were no Prince Charmings and that I was stupid to want a fairy tale. And despite trying to be realistic, my heart continued to want more than I was getting.
After years of this, I was divorced, lonely, and battling feelings of self-hate and despair.
Then I met Jenn Burton.
She told me that I deserved to have my dreams come true. That I am beautiful, desirable, sexy, smart, and all that is wonderful. That there are men who want to be part of my life. That I can be adored, feted, celebrated, cherished and respected. And after taking The Courage Kit – I believe it!
Eight weeks later, I have: made friends with some of the most remarkable women from all over the world (really!), fallen in love with myself, strengthened my relationships with my co-workers and improved my ability to converse with my boss,went on my first date in FOUR YEARS, and am attracting more men than I have my entire dating life until now!
I no longer hear a litany of “too fat, too old, too ugly, too powerless, too stupid…” going on in my head. I have so much more confidence than I have ever had. My friends have even told me how happy they are that I have taken The Courage Kit, because they have been watching me bloom over the past eight weeks. They tell me how excited they are for my future, how impressed they are of my chutzpah to take this course, and how proud they are of how far I have come.
What has made the most difference with The Courage Kit is the overwhelming amount of loving, individualized support not only from Jenn, but from my classmates! I’ve received comments that have left me breathless and giggling, advice that slapped me upside the head and made me pay attention, and so much encouragement to face my biggest fears down like a cowboy winning a draw. And I am so grateful for all of it.
Three words that best sum up my TCK experience are: Love (which I felt in abundance), Effervescence (which I also felt as everything began to fall into place), and Chutzpah (which I gained as I tore up my old, false beliefs and gained new wisdom).
If you are hesitating to take this class, can I tell you something? As a woman, your romantic life is really important. It is a source of confidence, energy, and peace. And if you are spending your energy on men who do nothing but take, or on men who hurt you, or on stifling any desire to date at all, it is impacting ALL of your life, and you are robbing the world of your best self.
This isn’t silly. This isn’t selfish. This isn’t immoral. This is life-affirming. And yes, you DO deserve it.
Elizabeth L, Non-Profit, U.S.
As for dating I have had the best time in the world dating and learned a lot about myself in the process. And yes now I have the most wonderful fiancé in the world and I couldn’t be happier!
I would recommend Jenn’s programs for the confidence boost alone; it rewires the way you view yourself which in turn changes your interactions for the better.
Hayley J., Fashion Merchandising/ Dancer/ Choreographer/ Dance & Yoga Teacher, U.S.
Though I had no reservations about being coached, I did however have reservations about dating. I was highly resistant to the idea that dating itself could be fun and that dating more than one person at a time was not only ok to do but would be enjoyable. Luckily, after a little persuading from Jenn, I got over my reservations and had the most amazing time enjoying dating.
When I met Jenn I was once again in limbo with a rocky relationship I had been in for about 4 years. I truly thought that I would never even be attracted to another man. I didn’t want to date other men, even though I was single for fear that I would lose the man I was in love with (despite our less than gratifying relationship). After my experience with Dating Boot Camp and Romance Coaching, my entire world changed. Literally.
I learned to enjoy dating. I learned to appreciate every man in my life for the things that he is and not get entangled in the things he isn’t. I learned how to take care of me so that I would be taken care of. I learned the hard way more than once that Jenn’s rules are the best dating guidelines I’ve ever come across and believe me, I’ve read a lot.
I had so much fun dating other men, I learned to enjoy the time I did spend with my ex and I was amazed at how when I opened up to the possibility that there was possibly another man that I would be attracted to, I found many!
Eventually after a brief reuniting with my ex, we parted ways. Though it was painful to end the relationship, the new confidence I had that I would definitely once again enjoy being single was so reassuring. Because I worked through the fear of dating once before, this time when the relationship ended I knew that when the time was right, I would excitedly embrace dating again.
Well guess what, shortly afterwards I met an amazing guy that I have been with for 5 months… I knew I would! Thanks Jenn
I love the tools for inspiring a guy to tweak his behaviors and the tools to not let his behaviors drive you crazy. I’ve always been a believer that you can’t bitch a guy into doing what you would like him to. Nor is acting crazy going to turn him into the man of your dreams. Jenn’s tools are an effective and non confrontational alternative to doing the same things and getting better results.
I would recommend Jenn to every woman. After going through DBC and romance coaching, I not only enjoy dating more but men enjoyed dating me more. I would imagine it’s a refreshing change to date a girl who knows how to not only handle herself but who subtly knows how to handle him too.
Katt L., President of Operations and Director of Marketing, U.S.
I walked in to the first class with a “chip” on my shoulder regarding relationships and myself. Jenn helped me realize that I was capable of having anything that I want in dating, and more importantly, in my life. I was able to prioritize what was important in my life and I started achieving my goals. We quickly removed the “divorced” title, and changed it to SINGLE. To some, that may not mean a lot, but to me it helped my start the process of moving forward! From learning how to truly accept a compliment with a smile, to enjoying every moment of my dating experiences, I became more secure in not only knowing what I want, but getting the most out of every experience as well. I can now see the good in all: men, work, family and me.
I can’t thank Jenn enough for the fire that she has helped relight in myself. It was always there, I just let it smolder for a while. Overall the experience is a lot like getting that new pair of shoes that you have been wanting for a long time. I slip them on every single day, and step out with a smile on my face!
Update: Erin was recently engaged!
Erin R., PR Director, U.S.