#FairyDustTV Episode 21, Online Dating Profiles For Women
Wondering what you should put in your online dating profile? OR Not getting the results you want with your current profile? Online dating profiles for women that work.
#FairyDustTV Video Transcript:
Online Dating Profiles for Women
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I am going to show you the two online dating profile examples, and I want you to ask yourself a question:
Which profile gets the guy?
Example No. 1
I am looking for someone with honesty and integrity. A God-fearing man. Please be who you say you are –please no game players!
A person with a good sense of humor… A smile goes a long way –make someone happy today!
Today the weather here is beautiful. I just wish I had someone to share it with. Picnics, walking hand in hand, how nice. I like a man who has passion in his heart and romance in his eyes.
I look for a man who has HUMOR, COMPASSION, INTEGRITY, LOYALTY, FAITHFULNESS, and who is a good communicator.
I am not a perfect person by any means. I still have work to do. With God’s help, I am striving to be the best person I can be.
God bless, I wish you success in finding your match. Until we meet, SMILE!!!
Example No. 2
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Originally from Australia, I’ve been living in the US for a long time. I travel a lot –for my job as a journalist, and also because I love the surprise of the unknown. I love to learn about new places, people and cultures. I’m the mother of a grown son who is off at college. I like to be in harmony with the word around me. Wow, that sounds new age, but I’m very down to earth. I like to read a lot and keep up with many things –politics, social issues, culture, travels, people. I especially value humor, being able to laugh at yourself, being able to communicate, culture in general, social issues, staying healthy, and the freedom to think out of the box. I also like Woody Allen films, swimming, hearing people’s stories, and simply talking with people. |
Did you guess it? Which profile gets the guy? Example number one or example number two? If you guessed NEITHER, then you are 100 percent correct.
You might be thinking: But why, Jenn?
Let’s break down example one first:
I am looking for someone with honesty and integrity. A God-fearing man. Please be who you say you are –please no game players!
I understand this phrase:
God-fearing man, and I know why she is using it (she wants to find a devout Christian man)
but it’s kind of a negative phrase.
There’s a way that you can actually turn this around and make this a little more positive. Something that i think will yield better results for you, which I will get to in a moment.
The other thing is this: this is a very BLAH profile.
I call this a ‘whatever’ profile. There’s not a lot of thought put into it. There’s not a lot of texture or color or anything to really start a conversation with. It’s very generic. And it’s heartbreaking for me to read because I bet this is a fascinating woman who just doesn’t have any clue on how to put together a good profile.
She probably put up something really fast and unfortunately she’s highly unlikely to yield great results from it.
Let’s talk about the negativity in this. This is very important!
Please be who you say you are –please no game players!
Basically, she is talking about bad past dating experiences, and with this one sentence has set herself up to be taken advantage of again.
She thinks she is preventing catfishing/and game playing. BUT IN REALITY she is inviting more of it and pushing away normal great guys.
In fact she is admitting to being easily fooled. Not a smart thing to put in your online dating profile.
A person with a good sense of humor.
Again this is very very general:
Everybody wants a person who has a good sense of humor. That is a given. You don’t need to mention that and if you do mention it, you need to mention it in a different way that is more exciting/more enticing.
Today the weather here is beautiful. I just wish I had someone to share it with.
These words I would…
remove from your profiles and your vocabulary. Because Lovergirl, it has all kinds of insecure undertones.
Picnics, walking hand in hand, how nice.
Yeah. How nice. BLAH BLAH. That’s what a guy hears in his head: BLAH BLAH BLAH CLACK CLACK CLACK. NEXT.
Someone who has HUMOR, COMPASSION, INTEGRITY, LOYALTY, FAITHFULNESS
These are the things that need to be mentioned in her profile, but she in a much more fun way.
I am not a perfect person by any means. I still have work to do.
Well, we all do. You don’t have to talk about it.
With God’s help, I am striving to be the best person I can be.
Uhm.. good, good for you. (Personally I would take this out)
God bless, I wish you success in finding your match.
Hey, I’m glad you wish me success in finding my match but aren’t we here to see if we might be a match?
The one thing that I really do like is that she says:
Until we meet
Then she’s talking directly to him. And that is attractive. It’s really the only thing that works in this profile.
Again: no texture, no color, no edge, nothing to start a conversation with. There’s nothing in this profile that goes: “Oh my God, I need to meet this woman.”
Okay let’s break down example two
Now, this one is a little better. Marginally.
Originally from Australia
I admit it has a little more texture to it but unfortunately, this woman, doesn’t get the guy either
What’s going on in this profile?
As I mentioned it does have more to work with, but there’s still so much that just doesn’t work. Like example number one, it is very generic.
It’s not quite as generic. She does mention being a journalist as well as a few other things. But there isn’t any creativity nor communication with the person who’s reading it. I personally like it a lot when women actually talk the man directly who might be reading her profile.
Oh and there’s what I call the ‘I’ syndrome. So many sentences here start off with ‘I’. Let’s see… ‘I’, ‘I’, ‘I’. Way too many I’s. If all your paragraphs is starting off with ‘I’, you have a boring, blah, bland profile and all he hears is BLAH BLAH BLAH, CLACK CLACK CLACK, I- I -I. Okay?
Something else, this word: companion, please don’t use this in your profile unless you add something fun to it because ‘companion’ is a dog. You’re looking for a lover, you don’t have to use the word ‘lover’, but you’re looking for a lover, a soulmate. Somebody who lights you up, somebody –a partner in crime. There’s so many different ways you can express that. Ignite his imagination and give you something to look forward to as well.
SIDE NOTE: After you put your profile together, have one of your girlfriends who is a grammar goody goody two shoes to go through your profile. Have her look for any spelling errors or anything that might make you appear like maybe you’re not as smart as you really are.
Originally, when I got this profile, it was a man’s profile and I tweaked it just a little bit to make it a woman’s profile. (I switched out a few possessive pronouns) As a woman, you want to sound like a woman. If you can substitute everything in your profile and it sounds like it would work for a man as well, then you have not put enough effort into your profile.
So let’s talk about an online dating profile for women that actually works
You need two things:
- Good current photos. I can’t tell you how many women mess this part up by using old/pixelated photos. You need good, current, non-pixelated photos.
- A intriguing profile that is telling but not too telling.
This is a profile that really works:
What are we doing right in this profile?
This profile is the start of a beautiful conversation.
This profile has many, many rich pieces to it that you’re gonna captivate his imagination and his attention right away. He has several things to reference in this profile that make it easy to communicate with you. You have given him the perfect starting point for a fascinating conversation. This is how real romance starts online.
So many women spend a really nutty amount of time these days on Tinder and really fast dating sites. They do this instead of taking the opportunity to slow it down a bit to get to know a guy a little online first.
Let him earn the opportunity to take you out on a date instead of conceding to his “Oh let’s go meet for coffee.”
This is how you change that dynamic to your favor.
If you spend a little more time online, you are going to create a beautiful foundation for real life-long, lasting chemistry.
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You get to see pieces of him that you never would imagine romantically possible before you even step in the same room. All because you created a perfect for you profile that captured his imagination.
This profile has color, it has edge, it has what she wants romantically. It has confidence, it has vulnerability. In fact she uses the word vulnerability. It even has quirkiness.
Did you know that your quirky, geeky side is actually sexy and attractive to men?
You don’t have to be this perfectly polished/ well put-together woman to be attractive to men. Men like those off the wall aspects of you because they make you real and tangible. This profile also creates a great visual/feeling of what it’s like to be with you.
By the way, I know there’s this big thing about guys only winking. The truth is that guys get rejected quite a bit. I don’t blame them for wanting to send the winks but there’s a very sneaky way to get a guy to stand/show up more.
P.S. I am a modern woman in many ways, and a bit more traditional in others. I love winks, but I find it even more telling/intriguing to receive a message from you 🙂
You’ve basically issued a fun challenge –appealing to his desire to be telling/intriguing and attractive to you.
If you can’t tell, I love details in a profile. I am not talking about over sharing of course. There’s nothing in the profile that he would use to track her down or pinpoint her. We’re not talking about you saying exactly where you hang out every Friday night. But details make a profile captivating. You’re illustrating your life and what it feels like to be with you without giving anything that compromises your safety.
Why does it work?
No. 1 You’re not a boring woman and I can prove it.
Most women put up what I call a “whatever profile”.
They put something up as fast as they can because they’re nervous.
They wanna see what is going to happen, who are they going to meet.
They desperately wanna manage all the anxiety that’s coming up and they have no clue what they should say about themselves.
So they fill in their online dating profile as fast as possible, not really considering the consequences of a ‘whatever profile’.
Not I am not saying that you need to be doing off the wall, extraordinary things to be fascinating to the right man. No, no, I don’t need you to be the woman who skydives into South America performing open heart surgery on the president of Bolivia.
But I can prove that you are not a boring woman. No woman has ever been able to convince me that she is truly boring.
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No. 2 This type of profile ignites his imagination.
The most magical dating experiences start in the imagination and then they move into reality.
Too many women think that chemistry is something that happens in person. Nope, Lady Love, it happens before the two of you even meet.
You’ll do some of the leg work online first increasing your potential of connection and chemistry exponentially for when you meet offline.
Give him some time to prove that he is worth your romantic attention while you are online. You’ll be amazed at how much more excited you are about meeting him offline.
Plus you’ll be starting something with the potential of long burning chemistry (instead of fleeting chemistry) and…
Something that has the opportunity to last a lifetime.
No. 3 Confidence is alluring.
I don’t want you to forget that. EVER.
I’m not talking about being cocky and I am not talking about boasting way too much. But the only men that are really truly attracted to non-confident women who don’t like themselves very much are mentally unstable men.
Confidence is alluring. Everything about this profile says that she is a high quality woman who will not settle for a low quality man.
Not only are you showing who you are and what you want with a profile like this, you are actually a million times more likely to attract the right man –a quality man too, because you’re willing to be vulnerable in this way.
Vulnerable and confident at the same time. (There is nothing sexier)
Wrapping up:
I want you just say no to the madness of bland, boring profiles.
Bland, boring profiles only do two things for you:
They either induce inbox crickets where nobody is contacting you or real-life crazies.
And you Lovergirl, deserve a MUCH BETTER online dating experience.
I want help you stand out from all the women in your area who have those crappy profiles by creating the perfect for you profile.
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It will teach you everything you need to create the online dating profile that takes you offline for real-life love and romance.
Muah!
See you soon,
Jenn
