“As you grow older, you’ll find the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do.”
– Zachary Scott
Today my course, The Courage Kit gets started… and to be honest, I am a bit nostalgic and excited all rolled up into one. I am thinking about all the different adventures I had, and the different men that I met before I became exclusive with my current beau.
I also keep thinking about what a difference it made when I actually started studying romance instead of just trying to wing it all the time. You see I moved to Mexico in 1998, and I definitely did get a lot of short term male attention. I had so much fun… but I had no clue what I was doing, and I fell in love. Saul ended up breaking my heart when one night he got up and left. Within 6 months he was married to someone else. After he left I literally spent an entire month in bed wallowing in my sorrow. It wasn’t pretty. My roommate begged me to snap out of it. But I was convinced that I had lost the love of my life. After I did get out of bed I searched and searched for the reason why he left me.
I finally settled on “He didn’t want to be with an American girl.” That excuse seemed to make me feel a bit better so I went with it. Several years later I traveled to the city where he had moved to. We chatted for hours. He told me that he had divorced his Mexican wife & now was living with his American girlfriend.
Not gonna lie it was like he dropped 32 ton jetliner on my chest and broke my heart all over again.
I finally had to accept, he didn’t want me, not some silly reason I had concocted in my head. I finally had to give up the excuses about why I had such a hard time with men. It definitely was a lot to swallow.
BUT… it freed me to have amazing dating adventures…
FAST FORWARD to 06: I remember how terrified I was to go out on my first date after my lover disappeared and being in the process of a divorce. I was excited and a little sick to my stomach as well. He wasn’t the guy for me… but we had an awesome time. He told me that I was the best date he had ever had. Pretty sweet for the chick who had chronically sucked at being with men. Then I went out on another and another… Each date getting better. Men actually writing me and saying that they couldn’t wait to spoil me. I also loved seeing a man’s resistance dissipate as he spent more time with me. I definitely enjoyed “hardcore take shit from no one guys” ask me if they could cook dinner for me. I actually fell in love with dating. Every man I went out with taught me something fundamental about how I want to create romance in my life. Every man I went out with gave me a new man skill that helped me with my current beau and our beautiful relationship.
Being adored by men helped me bring down my walls of resistance to love which I didn’t realize I had. One of my new clients asked me the other day… “Are you teaching game playing?” No I am not… I teach women how to inspire men to adore them and treat them the way they deserve to be treated. Yes there is an overwhelming element of fun in what I teach, otherwise I have no interest in teaching it.
I teach women to give up their lame excuses, so they can have what they want with men.
I teach women to create more romance, more giddiness, more love, more appreciation, & more pleasure with the men in their lives. No game playing required. I have absolutely no regrets in my love life… I know if Will and I don’t work out for some reason, I can recreate romance anytime I want. I also know how to recreate our own romance over and over again. I am passionate that other women know how as well.
So think about it… what do you want 1 year from now?
A. Do you still want to be stuck waiting and pretending you don’t care about having a great guy in your life?
B. Or do you want to be with a man who is everything you’ve ever wanted because you decided to take a chance on yourself and learn how to be adored by men on your terms?