How Come I Never Get What I Want With Men?

Hey Love,

Do you ever listen to songs and wish someone felt that way about you?

Do you see people around you that just seem to get whatever they want in relationships and romance

They don’t have to do a damn thing and it just seems to work. Or maybe you get a little moody around the holidays because everyone else seems coupled off and once again your romantic life is in the toilet?

 

Makes you wonder sometimes… is there something fundamentally wrong with me? I remember asking myself this question over and over again before I had my personal romantic reinvention. So I want to clear something up. NO there isn’t something fundamentally wrong with you. BUT YES there is something definitely wrong.

 

1. You Have No Clue What You Are Doing With Men
It’s nothing to be ashamed about, but understand it’s highly unlikely that one day you will just wake up and speak ‘Man’ese. Just like any other language you need 2 components…

A) Vocabulary
B) The opportunity to practice

If you are missing either component, well let’s just say it’s going to be a pretty bumpy road to love and romance, paved with the best intentions, the most fleeting romantic experiences, and lots and lots of tears & pain along the way. (I know you know exactly what I’m talking about because you’ve been there, done that)

2. You’re Waiting and Waiting
But Jenn, patience is a virtue… yes, I know… unless you are using it as an excuse to stay small romantically. How do I know? Because women who are committed to having the romance they dream of get in the game.

Here’s what I know for sure… You can have whatever you want romantically, if you are willing to do what it takes to let your walls down and learn the ropes.

So I am going to be honest with you… yes there is a slim chance that if you keep waiting he’ll show up… But how the hell is he supposed to find you? Especially when you are hiding out in your very predictable routine, or your very predictable ways with men.

Predictable is so freakin boring… I know for a fact there is something really sexy, amazing, fun, seductive, and mesmerizing hiding underneath your predictable. He needs to know that too 😉

3. Your Peer Group Sucks
I love married couples. I love all my girlfriends as well, but if you only hang out with couples well frankly you are making it quite difficult to meet available attractive men that you will be interested in. OR maybe you are hanging out with jaded women who are card carrying manhaters…

Honestly, I am not sure what is worse for your romantic possibilities. Having a group of women who understand what you are feeling, who are going through the same experiences, and who can collaborate with you makes a huge difference on how successful and how quickly you will attract what you want romantically.

Also men love women who have strong, unbreakable connections with their girlfriends.

One of my favorite clients shared with me that a man she was dating, and who is now her current beau, would tell her how much he loved the fact she had great girlfriends. He also mentioned that women who don’t maintain strong female friendships scare him. Why? Because a woman without strong female friendships many times will be more needy of constant attention & reassurance from her man. It is very scary territory to wrap your identity into a man, and very easy to do if you haven’t maintained your own personal friendships or cultivated new ones.

It’s so easy to let your romantic life pass you by year by year, have a few crappy dating experiences, and then another romantic drought. But you are the only one who has the power to change your romantic fate… and if you do nothing, then you get nothing.

Click here to stop getting the crappy end of the romantic stick and kiss boring goodbye.