Found a man you really like. Wondering if there’s anything you can do to get his attention romantically? There is. Several things in fact.
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How to Make a Man Like You.
There are actually four important things that you need to know about making a man like you.
But before we talk about each one, I want to note that it’s not about making a man like you, it’s actually about inviting a man to like you and giving him the opportunity to run with the chemistry that the two of you have together. Let’s get started.
No. 1 Don’t be afraid to show your genuine delight, enthusiasm, or interest in him when he is around.
Somewhere a long, long time ago came about the notion that you should not show any kind of genuine or romantic interest in a man; that you should pretend the opposite to make a guy like you.
That is the most ridiculous thing in the entire world.
Why? Because men are drawn towards women that enjoy their company and that are actually enthusiastic about being around him. It feels good to be around someone that you know enjoys having you around.
Which means it’s really important for you to throw out any preconceived notions about how to act in front of a man you like and instead just show him that you like having him around. That is so sexy to men.
Now you don’t have to overdo this. It doesn’t have to be a boisterously obnoxious “Oh my god, oh my god Pete there you are! I can’t believe it’s you, it’s you!” You don’t have to go there. You have my complete Romantic Fairy Godmamma permission to not do that. But it is okay to light up and smile when you see this man.
If you’re one of those women like I used to be, that gets so nervous that you completely shut down in front of a man you find attractive and you start acting like he isn’t there because you couldn’t handle your nerves. Here’s what I want you to do. (And yes, I know this sounds very silly, but it is very effective) I want you to go to your bathroom at home and practice your confidence around men in the mirror.
Imagine he’s in the room with you. I want you to actually practice that feeling of confidence, I want you to practice how you want to react around him. Look in the mirror and do it. I know it feels silly and it sounds silly, but the more you do that, the more genuine the reaction will start to become and eventually you’ll stop shutting down and feeling foolish around men you like.
You can also practice this with guys that you aren’t necessarily attracted to. The more you practice, the less awkward you feel around all me. It’s a win-win all around.
No. 2 Don’t be afraid to have good boundaries.
I understand firsthand what it’s like to not have good boundaries with men, especially the ones you really like. Long ago, and not so far away I used to be that woman. The truth is that no matter how strong and successful a woman may be, when it comes to a man that she really likes, there is a good chance her boundaries will go straight out the door.
My guess is that this is a fear of having to compete with other women for his attention and she thinks that she’s actually going to stand out by always honoring exactly what he wants and never really respecting or honoring what she wants herself.
This doesn’t work very well. At all
This thought process actually works to your detriment, and I want you to throw it out the door. You need to have good boundaries because good boundaries are sexy.
Good boundaries say to a man: “You know what? I value myself. I like you, but I value myself”, and that is extraordinarily irresistible to healthy, mentally stable guys.
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I will confess: guys who are not mentally stable don’t find good boundaries so attractive because they can’t work their games on you.
If you maintain good boundaries, then you’re automatically gonna draw in high-quality mentally stable guys, which is what we’re all looking for here right? Of course we are.
It is not sexy to be around a woman who only agrees with everything you say. Now I don’t want you to be contrary to every single thing he says, but for the love of all that is adored, have an opinion.
That whole notion that men don’t like strong, opinionated women is bullshit.
It’s absolute crap.
I don’t want you to buy into it anymore. Have your opinion, have fun with your opinion, challenge him on a different level –on an intellectual level.
It’s not just about the chemistry connection you to have in the bedroom. It is about the mental stimulation that he receives outside of the bedroom from you that makes him like you long term.
Again you don’t have to be contrary all the time to prove a point, but you should be willing to speak out about things that are important to you. Challenge him in a different way.
Now I know exactly what happens when you like a man.
You close down all of your options in other men before you two have even become exclusive. Mainly because something is telling you that if he finds out that a lot of other men like you, then why would he like you?
He’s gonna think bad things about you, and he’s gonna think that all you do is fool around with all different types of guys.
I can’t tell you how far from the truth you are about this.
There is a little secret I want you to know:
High quality men (mentally stable guys) like women that lots of men like as well, but not just any man can have. This means that it’s truly important that when you’re interested in somebody and you want to invite him to like you, to not shut down your other options in men.
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I can’t stress how important this is because then you put a high-quality vibe around yourself. You now have an “I don’t just settle for anyone” vibe around you.
You have a vibe around you that says “You know what? If you wanna be with me you better bring your A game because I have lots of options here”.
It is very seductive vibe. (Note: you do not EVER have to tell him that you have lots of options. It is something he will feel intuitively.)
How To Make A Guy Like You… remember these four things:
- Don’t be afraid to light up or show him that you enjoy being around him.
- Don’t be afraid of having good boundaries.
- Don’t be afraid to have a different opinion than his.
- Don’t be afraid to be liked by other men.
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