#FairyDustTV Episode 17, How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You
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Yep! We’re getting down to the basics. Things that every woman should have in her romantic arsenal. But if you haven’t seen the last #FairyDustTV episode of How To Make a Guy Like You, I suggest you go watch that first. Click here.
How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You
Before we get started, let me set the record straight. As I discussed in the last episode, this isn’t about making a man do anything, you’re just creating the opportunity.
We don’t want somebody to fall in love with us just because we can.
We want somebody to fall in love with us so that we can reciprocate something very beautiful and have that beautiful, emotional exchange between two people.
Which is why for today’s episode we are going to talk about four things that need to happen if you want to invite a man to fall in love with you.
No. 1 Have your own life
There are too many women who revolve their identity around whether or not a man is interested in them. Then, when a man is interested in them, all of a sudden, it’s all about him, his likes, his friends (everything about him!) and they start to neglect many pieces of their life.
There is nothing sexier, more mesmerizing and more intriguing than a woman who already has a life of her own, friends of her own, interests of her own, things to do on her own, places to be on her own.
I’ll be honest, there were points in my life that I did revolve my life around a guy when I became interested in him and I don’t want you to do that.
You become 100% sexier, 100% more alluring and mesmerizing when you already have this going for you; when you truly enjoy your life first.
A woman who is enthusiastic about her own life is intoxicating to wonderful men.
No. 2 Be the woman that he has the most fun with outside of the bedroom.
I do know that having fun in the bedroom is a real true bonus, but if you want to stick out in his head, you have to be the woman he has the most fun with outside the bedroom because that’s where long-term chemistry stems from.
You might have this insane connection with somebody when you first meet them and it might be magical in the sheets, but if nothing is going on outside of the bedroom then soon, that will fade.
On the other hand, if you are the girl who he has the most fun with (outside the bedroom), that bedroom re connection can be re-ignited again and again and again and again.
Even when you’re having kind of a lull in the bedroom, if you’re able to have fun outside of the bedroom, you’ll be able to re-ignite that chemistry in the bedroom.
(Inside, outside the bedroom –I feel like I just keep talking about the bedroom.) Which brings point number three, again talking about the bedroom hehe.
No. 3 Teach him how to get you off.
I’ve heard it, time and time again.
Most women think that a guy wants a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. They think that unless they know how to perform pornographic acts, they won’t be able to keep a guy interested in the bedroom.
That’s so far from the truth.
The truth is that a good man, a real man, the right man for you, is really interested and wants to get you off as well. It’s important for you not only to learn what turns you on, but for you to be willing to teach that to him as well. This too is alluring, mesmerizing and will keep him coming back for more and more and more.
It’s intoxicating to be with a woman who you know how to get off.
Men love that.
Absolutely love that.
And for those that don’t and don’t care anything about getting you off, please free them. Let go of them. They are not worth your time.
I have to admit, this is where most of my smart, successful women get tripped up big time in romance.
Somewhere along the way, women have learned that it’s not okay to be romantically vulnerable anymore –or vulnerable in any way. Maybe because we’re competing in a man’s society, and because we want a 50-50 playing ground. Women think that if we show our vulnerability, somehow, we have lost our power.
The beautiful piece of all this is that when you actually connect to that vulnerability, (Which is very seductive. Very alluring.) and you combine it with appropriate boundaries, you can use that have what you want in a relationship with a man. It makes it easier to fall in love with you.
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It’s a highly seductive, alluring, mesmerizing, intoxicating quality.
These are the words you have to think about when you think about vulnerability. It is not the scariest place to be in the world.
You need to understand your vulnerability –what it means and what it doesn’t mean. Most women think it’s a release of power, when in fact it’s the opposite. It’s the ability to allow yourself to be who you are; to own that piece of you and still have beautiful boundaries.
The ability to show your softer, more feminine side to man and share that with him. Because that’s the piece that he’s going to fall into and not be able to forget you for. So I want you to allow him to see those pieces of you. It doesn’t make you less strong of a woman whatsoever.
NOTE: A lot of women get tripped up thinking that men don’t like strong, successful women. It’s not that men don’t like strong, successful women. They’re very attracted to them. It’s just that strong, successful women don’t give them the opportunity to adore their vulnerability and to share that with them.
These women feel like they’re losing control, so she shuts down. He doesn’t get that opportunity and that connection is missed.
So if you think about it, it’s actually quite simple to invite or make a man fall in love with you.
Number one is to have your own life — very important and what you should already be doing anyways. Good thing most of you are.
Number two, be the woman he has the most fun with outside of the bedroom because we’re talking long term here.
Number three, teach him how to get you off because your pleasure is just as important to him as his own.
Number four, vulnerability. Learn to be vulnerable with a man but maintain good boundaries at the same time.
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